God’s Perspective

The Issue

I remember a relationship I had; I was hurt by something they did and looking back, I realized it was about how it made ME feel and how it affected ME and that I reacted and responded out of my perception of things. That’s how it usually goes. It’s according to how it affects us.

His Perspective

By the 2nd or 3rd day of praying about it and for the person, I heard the Lord say, “Why don’t you ask ME my perspective?”

So I did, and what God revealed was the root issue, the source of why the person had the issue. It was an area of unhealed hurt in their life. The real need was inner healing in the person. And so I began asking the Lord to heal them.

Some days after that I even had a dream about it and the Lord was basically telling me grace was needed. Apparently, I still had somewhat of an attitude. I needed to have grace, give grace. He was letting me know He was working.  It was a big issue that was to become a non-issue. Because the Lord was speaking to me about it, I knew He would take care of it.  Isn’t God good?

Unconditional Love

Not only did it change how I prayed for them, but I stopped being hurt by it because it wasn’t about me or the relationship to begin with. The important point here is unconditional love.  Even when we FEEL otherwise.  

“Micro cheating” or cheating is any connection with another person outside of your marriage relationship.  Some examples are: an emotional affair, an online relationship, a connection with someone at work or church, a wandering eye, etc. Of course the behavior needs to stop.

In Marriage

If we think about repeated cycles, or areas of contention and our normal responses, they are usually counterproductive, even destructive. But if we find out what is at the root (and only God can reveal what that is) we can ask the Lord to break cycles. We need to address areas constructively and not avoid dealing with them because it’s hard. God wants to heal, and He is the only one that can and wants to do it.  

This is unconditional love. This is how to love right.

The outcome is this: Wholeness, individually and as one flesh.

BTW (sidenote)

When we share these Marriage Minutes, keep in mind the only difference between a couple that endures through time and a couple that calls it quits is being committed, forgiving people and staying submitted to covenant.  That is why if you have been through a divorce due to your spouse not being committed or willing to work through things, there is no condemnation. It really takes 3 (God in the center).

Recently, this year we have walked through and have witnessed first-hand several miracle marriage restorations. And in ALL cases, BOTH spouses were submitted and willing. AND GOD MOVED MOUNTAINS. It’s what He does. He is SO for marriage! Don’t ever think He can’t or won’t save your marriage no matter the depth of issue.  IF you surrender and seek His restoration and healing, He will show up! He wants it more than we do!  We knew this before, but we’ve had a front row seat for a few marriages this year alone!!

A Word to:

Youth & Singles

BEFORE DATING SOMEONE ASK:

#1 Are they saved; are they walking with the Lord? What is their character? Do they attempt to be alone with you and be physical? The bar needs to be set high concerning character. That is a really big deal.

#2 Do you have God’s green light? In other words, are they the one God has for you?

Discussion: What areas seem to come up over and over that cause hurt and discord? Pray together and ask the Lord for His perspective and for Him to move in this area and for help to love unconditionally.

Study: 1 Cor 13

Prayer: Heavenly Father, we need your help in areas we have had no resolve over. Heal where healing is needed and help us love each other unconditionally.